The above sentance is my feeling for dear2 family living in this SK house.
Its not like i hate dear2 parents n his bro...
But I really hate to tolerete their actions.
I dun understand y people can be so unhygenic even in their own house.
I wana move out asap but...
Alot of ppl ask me, "y dun u let ur mil look after ur baby?"
Seriously, its not like i hate them or wat but their actions really made me sick of them, sick of living with them.
Maybe alot of ppl might feel tt im rude & "u r staying in their house still wana complain" kinda of stuffs.
I dun wish to blog all these, but i really need to let it out somewhere if not i'll go crazy...
Even now i feel like my depression is coming again cause i would cry suddenly until very terok, i really cant stand it.
Tell me... Would you dare to let someone look after your baby if:
*She wakes baby up to bath her. (still can accept)
*She says must bath baby 1st then feed her even though baby is crying for milk. (cant stand, makes baby keeps on crying as a result & darling has holes in heart @ tt point of time.)
*She bathes baby "gan jiongly", frightens & makes baby urinate on the floor as a result. (cant stand)
*She have fish skin on her shirt when she was bathing baby. (cant stand)
Even though I went thru Caesarean giving birth to Charlene, i bath Charlene on my own 2nd wk of my confinement, bringing the tub of water from kitchen toilet to our room. I realised tt she do not have any experiance at all looking after babies, she only have experiance looking after Toddler.
Actually all above, i have lived thru it, got over it but what i cant stand is living with them.
Tell me... Can you tahan living in these environment:
*Where doors were slammed loudly everytime when u have a baby at home.
(dear2 told them a hundred n one time tt WE HAVE A BABY AT HOME, dun frighten her but they just say okok, listen one side, another side goes out, only until darling was 4MTHS PLUS then they started using the door stopper dear2 bought them when darling was born, to stop them from slamming doors. When the door slam, she still can tell us "upstairs door also slam mah" WTF, i mean common lor, ppl got baby at home or not? & its ur grand-daughter leh, sh have heart problems but u all dun give a damn keep slamming, after surgery also, tols them darling cannot be frighten cause heart is weak needs to recover but doors still slam & same things were said)
* Where ppl likes to talk damn loud, tok extremely loud to each other & on HP, laugh loudly when a baby is at home.
(same thing, dear2 told themalot alot of times, they frightened babies, but still since darling is born, they r still the same. Even when my friend came to our house visit me, asked me "ur mil dun like ur baby issit? y tok so loud on the phone when baby is still sleeping?" i just smile back. Ya i knw maybe its their habit of living but cant they think of baby???)
*Where he likes to on his com to watch DVD at full blast.
(told him hundred n one time liao, cause he likes to do tt when he reach home which is 11+pm n dun give a damn, just on full blasts without closing his room door)
*Where u can see ants crawling around the floor cause there were drips of juices or soups or foods dropped on the floor & not cleaned up.
(I sweeped & moped everyday with the "Chu Chen Zhi Tuo Ba" & every morning i can see all these! I mean... Hello~~~ this is ur house, u all eat or drink spilled on the floor dunno how to wipe??? if a few times, u tell me accidentally nvr mind but is everytime when they r eating at home or drinking will have lor! Then u can see ants crawling around the kitchen.)
*Where u go into the toilet, toiletbowl not flashed, most of the times urines & a few times- SHIT, yes SHIT.
(Its really very sick where u go into the toilet every morning to smell the smell of urines cause they dun flash whenever they urinate & SHIT? yes, i saw a total of 5 times, accidentally? Ya but 5 times. enough liao lorz, who knws, might have more to come.)
*Where plates & pots etc not washed clean.
(After my confinement when i saw all these, i told dear2 to tabao for me everyday cause i dun dare to eat their home cooked food. Everyday i go to the sink, i can see rare meats or fish skins etc still sticking on the shopping board & the plates? The plates have all those stains sitcking on them, u knw like not washed cleanly then overnight harden kind? & ants crawling there lor. Ya tts it, tell me, u dare to eat?)
*Where ppl reach home nvr wash their feets.
(ok, this is more minor thing, i still can accept... but i feel very sianz lor, everyday i wipe the floor then they reach home nvr wash feet then step until the floor all sticky all over.)
*Where they just throw their rubbish just on the side of the sink without tying the plastic bag, with foods all inside leave till overnight, ya ants crawling around there.
(Seriously, the sink is area where i hate most, or i tink should be kitchen cause its the dirtiest part of their house! i dunno y but they really dun seems to give a damn abt the cleanliness of their house. dear2 keep throwing away, cause remind them liao still same.)
Well, they just dun give a damn, no matter how many times dear2 tells them. I knw they hate me, dun like to see me at home, if they r not so "like tt" would we have asked them to dun like this dun like tt? We hate to do tt also, dear2 had gave up & disappointed with them cause he says tell them also like tt. I evn told them hen darling reached home after her surgery, to keep their voloume down cause her heart need to recuperate cannot gana frighten etc, & his bro ask "how long" WTF, how long??? he ask me stupid question, i tell him stupid answer, i told him "2 yrs" then he was like "WHAT?!?" Dun give me the crap tt his bro is still young dun understand, ya 19yrs old young?
Even my sis 12 yrs old knws tt baby at home try not to frighten them & cares abt Charlene, everytime would ask me "hows Charlene"
Apparently, they just treat wat dear2 n me told them as "er bian feng" cause they just dun bother.
This really makes me feels tt they dun give a damn abt Charlene at all.
I knw dear2 is very disappointed esp. with his relatives whom he claims is even closer then his own parents & siblings, when i gave birth to darling, they nvr visit us in hospital, they visited us when we r at home with no gifts no nothing, not even ang bao for darling, think they came cause the mother ask them to, its not like im hard up for their gifts or wat but i feel its really not very nice, u knw like they come unwillingly like tt. I can still remember dear2 happily messaging them tt baby is born, he thought they would come to Thomson to visit but no lor, not even the children whom dear2 claims like his own sister & brother, they dunno how to come? Or they Expect dear2 to fetch them? I can still remember e disappointed looks on dear2 face.
When darling is in hospital, they nvr came, not even a call or msg to dear2 asking abt Charlene & i told dear2 "ya tts the family whom u claim closer then ur parents & ur siblings" & yet, everytime when they need help be it IT stuffs or help at their stall last time, dear2 would throw away all his things just to help them, i ask dear2 to wake up lor.
Dun be so "chin chye" anymore, ppl ask u to do wat, u say okok.
& i told him if, IF la... but most prob. wont... even if have also at least 3 yrs time... IF i have a baby again, no need to inform his relatives from his m side cause none of them give a damn. none of them would visit us.
